Tommy Walker - Rewiring Beliefs: A Subconscious Revolution

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Hi and welcome to the You World Order Showcase podcast. Today we have with us Tommy Walker. Tommy is the mind engineer. He's passionate about inspiring and helping heal and power others to become their greatest potential. Welcome to the show, Tommy. It's so nice to have you with us today.

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Thank you, Jill, very much. I appreciate you having me here.

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So let me ask you, what's your story?

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Where did you get started? And then we're going to talk about this rapid subconscious reprogramming, because that just sounds so.

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Fascinating to me.

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Thank you. So it all started many, many, many years ago when I was in school, I was the bullied kid at school. I felt very much the black sheep in my family. My parents did the best they could. They were mean parents. But you know, when you feel different. I didn't fit in at school. I didn't fit in.

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Home. So I really had a hard time growing up and around 16 years old, more or less of my friend of mine at school recommended me to read the book The Celestine Prophecy I always felt like there was something more than just this life that we're living like this real life. And I went into that little bit of spirituality and I really felt good.

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But I had.

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But all my friends, my family, everybody kind of bothering me that I was kind of crazy because I was talking about energy. I was talking about emotions. I was talking about many things. We were talking about in 1994, more or less, 1995. So imagine back then it wasn't well known as today we talked about energy, love, spirituality, whatever. There's much more acceptance. So. But then it was very hard for me.

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And I went through very dark places back then. I wanted even to think about committing suicide because I was feeling out of this world, that I didn't fit in. I like. Thank God I didn't do.

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But I had a failed marriage. Many things going down, down, sideways along the way. And in 2009 I meant spiritual teacher, mentor, coach, that really helped me start making more sense of what was going on. What was I going into these negative spirals and many things, you know, that were going in the mind that I couldn't make sense at all.

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Negative behaviors and I was like, I shouldn't have this. I wanted to personally went back then too. And you know, affirmations, positivity, gratitude, all this, you know, throwing down, putting down your throat to try to feel good.

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It wasn't working, Jill. It was seriously a nightmare. I felt like, you know, that confirmed even more that there's something wrong with me because I was trying with everybody out there, everybody's teaching. Nothing seems to work. It's like I'm so screwed up that nothing works for me. So I was in a very dark spot. Luckily, a friend of mine that at school.

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Would laugh at me about all this Jibo, jumbo balls for utility and energy and.

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Things like that. He found a mentor that he said Tommy, this woman talks about the same things you spoke back then in school when I was 1617 years old and now I was 30. My life was over. Kind of my. My first marriage was over. I went back living with my parents. My business was going nowhere. I was making no money, but I didn't want to.

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Work for anyone?

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So yeah, it was crazy. So I said, OK, I'm going to go all in here because I don't feel there's another way. So she really started helping me understand the mind. And that helped me start making changes. And this is a little bit what I want to share today here.

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Well, why don't you go ahead and share how she helped you change your mind?

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Because I.

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Know from personal experience, affirmations do actually work, but there's more to it than we were taught all those years ago. It's like you're getting like one piece of the puzzle. Just they say, just do this well, it's not.

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Just do this. It's just do this and this so.

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Exactly. Exactly. I love that I use affirmation, so I want to. I want to build on that and I love this. I throw that out there.

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Because you grab people's attention when you say, like affirmations, all of this doesn't work. People like, what are you talking about, right? To some people at work. But yes, it is one small piece of the puzzle and there's much more pieces you gotta put together so that the affirmations help the change. But affirmations won't bring a change. And let's talk a little bit about that. There's a dissonance in the mind.

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If I don't feel good enough and.

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I try to.

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Pour. I'm good enough. I'm good enough. I'm good enough. The mind has.

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That I'm not good enough. Why? Because when we're kids from zero to seven years old, our belief system is empty from zero to seven. We have nothing, quote UN quote. In our mind, everything starts being created and we've run out of from emotions. So when I see my dad screaming at me because I'm not behaving right and he didn't know another way.

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How to deal with that situation? My emotions are negative at that time. When my dad is screaming, I get scared.

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Fear. The mind needs to put some logic behind it, and the logic at that age, it cannot be. Ohh. My dad has issues. That's why he's screaming at me. I'm just being a boy and my dad doesn't know how to handle this. My mind goes in too. I'm wrong. There's something wrong with me. I'm not good enough. I'm not valued. I'm not adequate. So according to those.

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Circumstance that I went through my mind starts creating the belief system from zero to seven. Then it continues. But the main thing from zero to seven.

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So I have.

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Proof that I'm not good enough.

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It's a partial truth, right? I call it.

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A partial truth.

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Because according to what I experienced with my dad, it made me feel not good enough, inadequate, not valued word, not worthy, whatever. So if I try to tell myself I'm worthy, then mine is going to say, wait, wait. Tell me one second. Let me look for the file brings out the file and start going through the file and say, hey, here, here you felt not good enough.

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What? Your dad, how he's, you know, screaming at you. Oh, look at this boy. This boy is, you know, bullying you. You're.

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Good enough. So in a way, what the mind is doing is checking for old memories. We're in a way that was confirmed. So there's a dissonant there's a disconnect between me saying affirmation. I'm good enough and a part of me that still believes that that truly I'm not good enough. It's still a partial truth is not the truth.

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Go ahead.

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The reality that you created.

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We create a reality when we're zero to seven.

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And that reality stays with us until we change it. But we can change it. That's the good news. And that is where the affirmations can help. But they aren't the actual thing. So I think you're.

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Exactly. Perfect. Exactly. That's the idea. So it's important to understand that the same thing, if I feel bad and I try to bring gratitude in to try to feel good, it's like if my kid comes into this room and says, dad, I'm sad. Ohh, don't feel sad. Count your.

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Going to go more on that.

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Saying you can say what's wrong with him. He's not listening. He's not understanding. He's not supporting me. I feel sad. I don't want to listen. You know, count your blessings. I don't want to listen. Gratitude. Let me try to understand why I feel sad. And this is unfortunate because again, all those techniques are amazing. Gratitude. Affirmations. But there is.

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Are in a way, a moment where they have to come in, because if not, what we're doing is we're.

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Causing more pain as we're trying to convince ourselves to think different from a part of us that created this partial reality that we're not good enough. So yes, that's exactly so. I had tried affirmations, I had tried grant to do. I had tried visualization. So many things without really going into my past to understand why I had those things in the first place.

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So as I started going back into the past.

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And as we were talking before, starting here, one of the big things that I teach that is very different to what the mainstreams are teaching is love and acceptance.

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And I'm not talking about love and accepting mediocrity because I'm not saying that people don't take that out of context, just in case what I'm saying is loving and accepting where you are. If you have a behavior that is self sabotaging, if you have a behavior that is procrastination, if you have a behavior that is, the impostor syndrome is getting you stuck instead of hating yourself instead of a big name out there is teaching pleasure or pain.

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To take action.

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I don't believe in that. Sorry. It's love, love and accept that there's a part of you that is protecting you. Procrastination is a protective mechanism. If I don't feel good enough inside of me because of my past experiences, the mind is going to say, wait, tell me, don't do this, because if you do it wrong, you're going to confirm.

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That you're not good enough and that's why the mind.

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Procrastinate not as a.

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Enemy trying to screw your life. The mind is never gonna try to screw your life. The mind is trying to protect you. The problem is that the actions it has or in actions have other consequences. But look at this, Jill that I always share is I might be scared right of you know.

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Let's put it as a person that is eating a lot and it's not stopping, people might say. But Tommy, if they keep eating like that, they're gonna have a stroke. They're gonna have a heart attack that they might die. Yes, but we need to understand this. Look at this. And I figure this out as I studied the mind so much is that the fear?

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Of not feeling loved is greater than the fear of dying.

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The fear of not feeling loved and they're covering up with the food, smoking, drugs, alcohol, whatever it is, is worse than the fear of dying.

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So yeah, they could like some people try to scare the **** out of them to try to get them to stop smoking, drink or whatever. But for most people it doesn't work and we've seen that studies are proving today that is not working right, Jill.

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It never works.

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That it may push you into a corner where you're going to feel worse about it yourself because.

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But then you then you've been given a bunch of information that's also helping you shape a reality that may or may not be true. I don't believe reality is actually true or not true. It just is. There's you form your thoughts and your thoughts form your reality, and you can change your thoughts and you can change your reality.

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It is.

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And you can accept any situation.

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A number of ways. You don't just because it happened and you experienced it doesn't mean that that's reality.

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You can change how you perceive that experience.

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Exactly. Exactly. So as I was saying, pain and pleasure, the fears is going on. So most people are running out of fears, right? They run their life through fear. Fear of doing and fear not doing when the when I have a deadline, the fear of not doing is going to get higher.

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Why? Because I have a deadline.

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But before the deadline, if I have a month, six months, whatever the fear of doing is higher. Why? Because if I do want to make a mistake, I'm going to confirm that I'm not good enough if I.

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I study for the test and then I do wrong. I'm going to feel even worse. So the mind is keeping you stuck as a protective mechanism. So what I tell people is love. The aspect of you that is procrastinating. Love the aspect of you that is drinking alcohol that is smoking, that is eating whatever. Because that part of you.

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Started that behavior out of two main reasons, one seeking.

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Love. Sorry about the balloons. I don't know what that happens. Seeking for love or the second one is numbing the pain out of the lack of love.

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Those are the two main human drivers, 2 main human drivers. So if I'm seeking for love, I'm going to my fall into people pleasing people pleasing. Might get me some love.

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Eating might cover the pain out of the lack of love, so if I want to take the eating from somebody and I'm not working on the.

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Of love. It's nearly impossible to take it away, and if a person is eating to numb the pain, and now that person is beating themselves up or their family is beating themselves up because they're eating, that's going to push them to eat more because they're using food to numb the pain.

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Out of the lack of love.

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So there has to be a change in pattern where we see, you know, people that drink with drinking.

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Problems like ohh, they're the bad person. The drug addict is the bad person. Is the mean person. The killer is the mean person. No, I'm not saying it's OK that they're killing. Don't get me wrong, but what they need is love.

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So we need to practice the love and acceptance of the of the aspect of you behind the behavior. That is the first step. If we don't love and accept the aspect of you behind the behavior, there's no way you're going to change that.

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Behavior it's going.

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To be a million times harder to change your behavior, you can only change it by using these old school techniques of scaring the **** of yourself.

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So that you'll go and change, but it's not actual change, it's out of fear. So it's not true love.

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So we got to start working and this is again love and acceptance. I would love and I tell this gel to my people I work with, right. I would love to stop in a stop light and look around and see people in their car just going like this in the stop light right in the train, in a bus, in an airplane. Just going like this for a little while. You know, hugging themselves, loving.

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The part of them that might not be aligned with what they want most, but if we don't do.

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That then it's very difficult to change and I tell this Jill to close this topic, we're talking right now, if I if I go talk to my partner because she did something that bothered me and go screaming at her and picking, you know, pointing fingers and judging her and criticizing, there are more chances that she's going to close up. She's going to become defensive.

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Or attack or defense and not talk to me. But doesn't that didn't solve the problem, but if I sit down with her through love and I explain to her what's going on that I would like to see if we can figure out what's going on, how we can change this, there are more chances that she might be open to question what's going on and you know.

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So if she feels love, she feels safe and the environment. So we do that to others. Why should we listen to authority figures out there that are telling us that you need to beat yourself up to just go do it? Push yourself, kick yourself in the ****. Just go do it. It's like, no, I wouldn't.

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72 hard.

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That do that to me.

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Exactly. So there's a lot we need to start questioning how we treat ourselves, because most people have found ways to treat others in a much more loving way. And that's what we've done with society. That's great. Don't get me wrong, before we would run around with a piece of stick and hit each other. Right. Then came the, the, the firearms. And we started killing each other. Right. And now we're in a different hero. Where?

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There's much more, you know, patient things like that in many areas. OK, we're learning how to treat others much better. Great. We've evolved, but how about taking that to ourselves?

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That's what is going to allow a change in our mind. As you're saying changing the beliefs. But those beliefs are really engraved and ingrained doesn't mean that just by telling me that they're wrong, they're going to change.

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I need to first love and accept what is.

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To then move to the next week.

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And it always starts with you. The only things you can change in the world are yourself, and it starts with loving yourself. And we've learned for so long that that's selfish and you should think of other people 1st and you should always come last. And it doesn't matter what you think. You just need to.

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Do it and.

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I don't think that's true.

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And I think that.

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It really is a disservice to people. I was listening to someone the over the weekend.

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And she said sometimes when you do things.

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That seem like they're really great things. You need to think about what your motivation behind it is, because if your motivation is just you feel like you're, you're doing it begrudgingly like you have to do this because somebody told you had to do it and you don't feel really good about doing it.

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Then that's the energy that you're calling back to yourself.

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Even though what you did was really great.

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You're still not going to get.

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The positive energy from that, because of the energy you were in when you were doing it.

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The intention behind it right?

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Yeah, yeah, it's the energy in in the creation process.

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I know that.

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Some time ago I was listening to a psychologist talking with I think it was Tom Video and other you.

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Know of these?

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Guys up there and she was saying that they had done a study. Hey buddy, they had done a study that, you know, they gave $20 to 20 people, one group $20 to another group of people, 20 people.

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And to Group A, they told him they had to spend the.

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Money on them.

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Group B. They could only spend those $20.00 for somebody else, and the conclusion they had drawn out of that study was that the people in Group B that they gave that $20 to others felt.

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Better. So it's more important to give to others. So I would say that. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Why don't you ask yourself why the group in a didn't feel good about giving to themselves? Because this is a bigger answer to find around this situation. The problem is, as you were saying before, we were taught that it's bad to give to ourselves that it's selfish to give to ourselves.

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So when we give ourselves.

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It's wrong.

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So people cannot give themselves $20 and spend them on them and feel good. And a lot of people do get me wrong. But in this study it for me it would be it. It is much more important to analyze why they felt bad because they have a bad self-image. They have a low self esteem. They have low confidence and that is what made them feel bad. Not because you got to get out there and serve.

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Now we are in this year of coaching and all of this right serving others and our people are pouring into them and I love what you just said. I had a question to this Jill, not for you, right, but for everybody listening and when you're doing something for your wife or your kids, for your boss or for anybody else.

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What if you do that and you don't get even a thank you, not a smile or anything? Anything. And you still be 100% a hundred, not 90, not 80, not 99100% still. OK, even if the other person doesn't even say thank you.

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And most people, because we're still humans, don't get me wrong.

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Will bother them if there's not a reaction from somebody else. If I give buy a gift and I give it to you, Jill, and you don't even say thank you. I'm gonna feel bad. Why? Because I haven't resolved issues.

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So the truth is.

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We need to understand that most of the times when we're doing things, there is a hidden agenda because we're still humans. I believe we're spiritual beings living a human experience from spirit. We don't need anybody else we can interact, we can share love, but we don't need them. But we need to understand that within this spirit.

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There is body, also body, mind, emotions. So we're still humans. So from the human side, many times we're doing stuff to get something in exchange and most people are not going to want to accept that because it means like oh, I'm bad. No, just shows that you're human and that you're looking something in.

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And that helps understand when we're doing it from Spirit truly 100%.

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Spirit and it's.

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Not easy to discern, or one want to do it from human side, and normally the truth is just in case you one more thing is we always come from Spirit first, first spirit, then human. So there is the spirit wants to serve others. Don't get me wrong, but I hear a lot of people that want to serve others.

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But when they cannot really help somebody transform somebody or whatever they cannot do.

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They feel like crap about themselves that is hidden agenda because you know what we are facilitators. We are tools. That's where if you look at my website, it says I help people transform their life. I don't say I transform people's lives. That's BS. I don't transform anybody's life.

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No one can. You can only be in charge of your own life. I do believe we're all connected and that's the spiritual side. We're all pieces of the one.

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The universe, the consciousness, the energy.

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That as we experience our.

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Lives individually.

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We tend to forget get trained out of us, lose contact with that connectedness, and I think that's why we seek approbation from others when we're doing something for them, because we want that we want that connection, we want to say OK.

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I did this because I wanted.

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To connect with you on a spiritual level.

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The God in me speaks to the God in you.

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Not that I am God, but I am a I am God.

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Because God is in me.

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And he's in you. He's in everything. And when we don't get that, sometimes it's really hard to just recognize that there's something stopping on that side.

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Or it could be something stopping on your side that.

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I love that. I love what you just said exactly. So we always come from spirit, but then it gets tainted from human side, from our own resolve issues. So again, I want to help people because that's my spirit. Don't get me wrong, but it doesn't mean that I still could come from human side trying to get that up, you know, acceptance, love, recognition.

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Or whatever, and that's why I see a lot of people that I work with. I work with several coaches, right, that they feel like crap that they cannot help somebody else.

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That shows that they're coming from human side more than spirit, because if they came from spirit, they would love and accept whatever it is and they would understand that they cannot transform other people lives that people have to transform their own lives. So it's thinking that I can create this. No, you cannot create that. You can be part of it. As you were saying, you know, I love that.

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We can be part of that because we're all one and we're part of the process, but it doesn't mean that I'm creating that transformation within you. You are creating it. It has nothing to do with me. I'm just, it's like the hammer being happy because it nailed, you know, something against the wall. No, the hammer is an instrument. The human using it would be. This is the same thing. I'm the hammer.

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There and the person is using me in a way.

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Understand that it helps much more when we cannot help people. And you know, when this came up with me, Jill, I used to be an emergency care for many, many years. You know, this saving lives. And I started seeing for me and then a lot of people around me that were affected when we couldn't save a life.

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And I started questioning that and understand like, wait, wait, what is wrong here that so many people, nurses, doctors, paramedics are getting so bummed out and so bad, right. And even depression, suicidal around this. What's going on? And I started realizing the same thing with that saving lives. We have been sold at concept that we're here to save lives.

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No, and in emergency care, police or whatever it's like. Oh, we're here to make a difference. You know, we're here to try.

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To make a difference, but that doesn't mean that it's up to us. We got to be very careful with it. The same thing with coaching or whatever area we are in life. We got to be very careful because the ego gets in the way and that is going to have a big tone in our mind. Stress, anxiety, depression, PTSD and even suicide. And I've seen that.

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Unfortunately a lot, because I was in emergency care, where life or death is all the time there and people really getting very frustrated and very bad when they couldn't.

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Save a life.

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It's not.

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The whole life death thing. I'm. I'm.

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Intimately aware of it right now, I had a grandson born today and my father-in-law is coming home on Hospice.

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I talk about, I don't really think that he's like on death's doorstep. The doctor does. The Doctor's looking at his heart. He's got congestive.

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Failure. But I know the man has had congestive heart failure for 12 years and they've told him he's going to die like tomorrow for 12 years. He is always believed he was going to live to be 100 and he's got 14 more years to go. Maybe living on Hospice.

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For quite a while still I he's.

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An interesting human being, and if he doesn't, you know he's had a great life and he was loved.

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There you go so.

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Just you're not in charge. We're all dying.

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Well, sometimes it's difficult to recognize that because you know what, Jill? What I've seen in these years of experience studying the mind and everything is that we all because we feel that disconnect from spirit, right, as we feel that disconnect with the spirit and the environment we were in as kids and we started building, we're inadequate. We're not good enough. We are bad. We are all these negative things have created.

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A apparent, you know, reality, right, our belief, our belief system and our self-image, if I'm able to save a life, if I'm able to be in charge, am I able to do these things that is going to deny what I feel inside.

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So I want to be able to be in control, be in power, be able to save others, because that's going to deny in a way override the feelings that I'm inadequate and I'm not worthy that I'm not good.

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That's how it works the mind again, as I said at the beginning, is trying to protect us. So it's going to create behaviors to try to keep us safe. So if we look at those behaviors with love and acceptance is going to make it much easier to be able to understand why they're there. What am I lacking that created that behavior in the 1st place? Give me what I need and then that behavior is going to start.

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Eating away, it might not go away overnight, but as I started loving and accepting myself or giving myself what I need, it's going to make it much easier to then be able to let go of that belief.

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It will for.

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Sure. Let me let.

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Me. Ask you what is your rapid?

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Subconscious programming all about, because I really am interested in.

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And hearing.

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So records of conscious reprogramming is the results that I've started coaching for many years, therapy for many years. Neuroscience, you know, self-awareness. I've studied in child healing. I've studied many, many modalities.

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And as I was starting coaching, I thought that something was missing, right? It's like I feel something is missing. I started therapy like something is missing. I started and I started seeing like I felt like there was things missing and then so I started creating my own way, in a way, right. And I started feel like, OK, but I cannot call this, you know, child healing because although it contains some of it, it's not.

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I cannot call this coaching, although there's many questions and all that because it's not and I couldn't really put it in anywhere. When people ask me, like, what, what do you do?

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So like I gotta put, I gotta create my own way, and it's based on many of these things. Are there many scientifically proven techniques that have helped me first, of course. And I have helped thousands of people on the way. I've been doing this for 14 years, so I decided to grab the best of each and put it together.

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Right to do it more as a holistic thing. When I'm talking with people, so we go into the past when we talk about today, we talk about the future. There's many things going on. But one of the most thing, the things that mostly we practice over and over again and talking about.

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And human side is whenever you're feeling sad is practice, love and acceptance of that part of you that is feeling sad when you practice love and acceptance, love and acceptance is closer to the spirit. So instead of saying with the ego and try to convince yourself to feel different, affirmation whatever control.

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Is love and acceptance of what is as we tap into spirit, we become more our true self, we become one. So we're an observer of the pain.

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And we love and accept what's going on. We try to understand what's going on. So it has neuroscience understanding how the mind works. It has going into the past and interact with past memories to change the reality that we created back then or the perception we created back then. There's so many combinations of things that I created this.

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I called rapid subcontract programming so as.

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The mind is made-up of all our past memories and those past memories with a limited and immature, you know, kid created, limiting negative, false beliefs of what I call now partial truths. So I'm not good enough because my dad hit me. That is a partial truth.

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My dad hit me. Yes.

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Out of that I made-up in my mind that I'm not good enough, so it is a partial truth. I cannot say it's wrong because it's what I made-up, but The thing is that little kid didn't have the entire context. Entire contact could be. Hey buddy, your dad is hitting you because he doesn't know better and he.

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His dad, you know, beat him up and now he only knows violence to try to keep you aligned with what he thinks is.

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Best for you?

:: 29:22

She doesn't know better.

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Than me owning how I'm treating myself because another thing, apart from addressing what another person did to you as a kid, is also understanding what you're doing. I love inner child. Healing is finding the little kid and then.

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Saying, hey, Tommy, I love you.

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You're amazing. You're the best thing that happened to me. But yesterday I was saying that I'm a ****** ***. Yesterday I was.

:: 29:41

Saying that I'm a loser, so there's so.

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A disconnect in many of the inner child healing therapies out there that you.

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Become the good guy. When yesterday he was a bad guy, so it's like for the mind is a little bit confusing because there's no sorry, there's nothing addressing that. Hey.

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I'm treating you like crap, Tommy. Nowadays. I'm sorry. So there's many combinations of things that I've put together to that of this technique that I've been doing now for many years.

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Does that make sense?

:: 30:10

Interesting. Do you?

:: 30:11

Do it all one-on-one, or do you do it in Group coaching settings?

:: 30:15

Yeah, I love the question. I have that a lot. So I offer a program where I have both things. I don't normally do, only group settings because the truth is sometimes it's difficult for people to open up. They need to feel loved, acceptance and safe to open up to their worst fears.

:: 30:31

Things that are not even aware consciously, so to be able to really access the subconscious mind, the person needs to feel true love, acceptance and safe and a lot of people have gone through many difficult things that they although they don't recognize it, they might say, oh, I don't care. It's OK with me. Truly deep down, they're not willing to open up in a group setting.

:: 30:53

I have people opening up in Group setting with more kind of surface level things and I give them examples of they have to go deeper and take it with them to practice.

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Answer questions. You know it's different things, but mostly I work also one-on-one because I believe that that's when they can feel safe, loved, accepted to really open up. And I have had people really bring things that they never told anybody in the past. They deal with things that they were very scared of dealing with and that's the idea I have practice a lot.

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Of self.

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Love and able to create an environment so that people could feel really safe to bring out even their worst beliefs in there. Like I work with people that have abused others as kids. I have worked with alcoholic with drug addicts. I have worked with a lot of people in different areas and they feel so safe to just open up and tell me. And it's not just saying because talk therapy is just about telling.

:: 31:44

The things that are going on but is then connecting and understanding OK why did I start smoking? Why did I start drinking? What was I trying to numb from here we go really deep to connect.

:: 31:54

Thoughts. It's like people they tell me, but they give me pieces of a puzzle that I'm not seeing. The box where you can see the picture of the puzzle and I start trying to put them together and help them also put them together to make sense, because if you understand that you're eating because you're not, you're numbing the pain inside because you feel so lonely inside. Now you don't judge yourself so much because you're eating.

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You're starting to practice some love and acceptance.

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And that level of acceptance as you practice more, I've seen people being able to start losing weight, stop eating so much food and take care more of themselves because of they develop the self love.

:: 32:29

Makes sense?

:: 32:31

It does make sense and I've seen.

:: 32:35

I'm for myself. I've gone through a lot of those experiences also so.

:: 32:41

Uhm, what is? What is the best way for people?

:: 32:44

To reach out to you.

:: 32:45

If they want to look up, you know, look me up on Internet. They can just put Tommy Walker double M wide. Tommy Walker, the mind engineer. For now, I'm the only the mind engineer. Tommy Walker out there. So they're going to be able. They can find the mindengineer.com, the website. I have lots of free resources. I have a book. I have many things that people can.

:: 33:06

Start looking into where I share. I love what I do. I want to really help as many people as I can. So I'm doing a lot.

:: 33:12

Out of free stuff I go online, you know, I go live twice a week where I share insight and tools for people and I have lots of material for people that maybe they can afford. They are in a bad situation right now. They can consume a lot of my free stuff. People that like reading. I have a book. I also have a course and people are willing to commit more and they're able to invest.

:: 33:34

I have a program that we can work one-on-one and I can help them start teaching them, call them my work, and lately what I did is I launched my own coaching program because again I had some people asking like Tommy. Now what can I study to kind of do what you do? And I started thinking, OK, coaching not really, you know, coaching by itself, right, this this so.

:: 33:52

Wait, what if I put my own coaching program? So now I'm doing a coaching certified coaching program where I teach people RSR so that they can, you know, we can help more people around the world with this.

:: 34:05

That's amazing. That's really great. So.

:: 34:07

Thank you. Thank you very much.

:: 34:10

What's the one thing you want to leave the audience with today? What do you want them to take away from our conversation?

:: 34:15

So the most important thing that I tell everybody is the love and acceptance.

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Of what is.

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If you're drinking love and accept the part of you that is using that to protect you from something you might not understand, why love and acceptance. If you are falling into perfectionism, if you're falling into procrastination, if you're falling into loss of focus, loss of clarity, stress, anxiety, whatever.

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Pain in the body.

:: 34:39

Love and acceptance. There's a part of you that is trying to communicate you. But I tell Joe people is that the light in the dashboard that turns on when the motor needs to be checked. Stress, anxiety, fear.

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Lots of focus, lots of clarity. Whatever is the light in the dashboard that is telling you that you need to go deeper to understand what's going on inside.

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So that would be my best advice for everybody. Love and acceptance of what is, even though if you don't understand and slowly practice letting the mind reveal to you what's really going on underneath, try to change yourself to feel better. It's just a war. You're going to start and it's never going to end.

:: 35:19

Right yes.

:: 35:21

I couldn't agree with you.

:: 35:22

More, thank you so much for joining me today, Tommy.

:: 35:26

This has been awesome.

:: 35:28

Thank you Jill for your time and I hope everybody enjoyed this.