From Autoimmune to Aligned: Nika’s Journey to Healing and Wholeness
If doctors keep telling you you're fine—but you know you're not—this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, intuitive wellness coach and first responder Nika Kozyra shares her powerful journey of reclaiming her health, overcoming years of autoimmune issues, and finally reconnecting with her body, mind, and spirit.
From debilitating symptoms and misdiagnoses to real, holistic healing, Nika's story is a reminder that you’re not crazy—and you’re not alone. If you've ever felt dismissed, gaslit, or like you’re surviving instead of thriving, Nika’s no-nonsense, heart-centered approach to healing will resonate deeply.
She shares:
- How modern medicine failed her—and what finally helped
- The role of trauma in physical illness
- Why small shifts can create big transformation
- How she now helps others do the same through custom coaching
Whether you're a first responder, coach, or simply ready to feel like yourself again, Nika’s journey offers both hope and practical insight.
Learn more:
Visit stolatwellness.com to connect with Nika and explore her custom coaching options.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you're struggling with understanding why your body isn't responding to health, despite numerous medical visits and prescriptions, then our next guest is going to inspire you. Hi, and welcome to the You World order showcase podcast where we feature life, health, and transformational coaches, stepping up to be the change they seek in the world. I'm your host, Jill Hart. The coaches alchemist on a mission to help entrepreneurs
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and coaches, amplify their voice, monetize their mission and get visible leveraging podcasts and substack. Today we are chatting with Nika Kozira, who is an intuitive integrative wellness coach. Her goal is to help you reconnect and heal in order to achieve your goals and overcome obstacles. Welcome to the show, Nika.
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::Nika: Hi, Jill, very, very, very happy to be here.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So I'm going to ask you the question. But then I want to hear all about your story, because I think your story is so fascinating, and I think a lot of people will connect with with your story
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: just because of the way the world is right now. So what's the most significant thing in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going.
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::Nika: 100% is to reconnect with ourselves.
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::Nika: with each individual existence being experienced, the more we are reconnected to who we are and why we're here finding our purpose that allows us to reconnect to everyone else around us.
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::Nika: and that strengthened us as as a community, as a society, as just as a whole, because I think, unfortunately, regardless of the fact that we are now able to do these video calls. You know, I'm the last generation of like writing reports on a typewriter. We are more disconnected than ever, and we're lonelier than ever, and we're sadder and more depressed and anxious, and I. And I think that comes from
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::Nika: we are not getting fueled on any level in our existence, whether it's the mental, the emotional, physical, or the spiritual.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, that's so true. I don't know if it's so much that it was never, or it used to be that we were feeling more fulfilled. But I think we're more aware of it now because of the Internet, and because of the connectivity that we perceive from
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: from viewing other people's lives through the filter of. However, they want us to view them. And so there's there's those elements of like, I'm not enough.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and I think that's always been around, but I think it's more magnified. Now.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what do you think about that?
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::Nika: I agree with that when it comes to certain situations. Right? So, you know, obviously, being a young girl, right or a boy, I think girls have always a little bit more pressure. So I'm 5 foot 10. So I've I've never been a small human, and my mom is 4, 11, and I remember always feeling like I'm too big and I'm too fat. But I had to contend with the magazine that would come to my house once a month. That would tell me that I need to wear this style. Wear this lip gloss right like.
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::Nika: But then I closed the magazine, and I was. I was done.
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::Nika: Now these young girls can't escape this artificial perfection right of the bbls of the instagrams, of the airbrushings
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::Nika: that level. I mean it. You can't get away from it right? It's the same thing, you know, when you think about connection in the past, when it comes to movies, I mean going to like a movie date was like a thing. You know. You paid your $5, you know. Sometimes you do the matinee, 2 for one, but you would go with your group of friends, you'd all watch the movie, but then you'd all engage afterwards.
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::Nika: Now you sit home in Netflix and chill.
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::Nika: We've lost that connection with with actual people. Right? It's like we're comparing ourselves to the Instagram models, right to to the Kim Kardashians. We're watching just movie after movie after movie. And we're wondering why is it so empty? Because at the end of the day technology is great. AI is great for a lot of things. But we have become
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::Nika: so removed and disconnected, and our souls are not being fed
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::Nika: because we're not getting any energy transfer. I mean, I can stare at the TV all day, and that's great. But it's not feeding me back. I'm giving it my energy. But I'm not getting anything back. And I think that's a big issue in in modern society.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think it's it goes back probably 70, 80 years.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I know I'm 65, and in my lifetime I've seen a lot of things go
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: through their through their paces, and I'm connected. I'm old enough to have been connected to people that were born and coming of age in the early 19 hundreds.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I remember the stories that they told about those experiences. People didn't worry about what they look like or what they
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: or how they were dressed so much. I mean they they did.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They most of them made their own clothes, you know. Let's be real, and they they were farmers or ranchers, or you know they fed themselves. They were people that knew how to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: be a human being, instead of relying on artificial things to keep them going.
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::Nika: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because we've moved away from the just
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the things that you need to do just to exist in the world. Like, you know, basic things like food, shelter, clothing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: those. Those were the 3 basic things that you need to cover in order to continue your existence. And the average person doesn't know how to do any of those 3 things.
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::Nika: A hundred percent. I mean, so I'm from Poland. I emigrated to the united states in the nineties
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::Nika: and my whole family is back in Poland, you know, my grandmother, all my great aunts and uncles. They're all 90 plus, and I'm I'm talking about. They live on their own. They still cook their food, they still iron and fold their clothes into tiny little, you know. How do you say? Like squares? You know what I mean. So I fully. I fully understand that. And the thing is, you know
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::Nika: it for them growing, you know, growing up in in Poland. And and it was like you were
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::Nika: the coolest girl if you had lip gloss. Right? So so basic.
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::Nika: And now it's like you're not even the coolest girl you have to just be average if you put on like a whole face of makeup, with all the contouring and the airbrushing and the spraying and the you know.
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::Nika: and it's it's taken away. We've put more emphasis on the physical, and we have really been diminishing the spiritual. So I'm very spiritual at this stage of my life, and I do believe we are spiritual beings. And this is just a physical vehicle that we're in. But our goal. Our purpose is to reconnect to the spiritual.
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::Nika: not the physical. We've made the physical so important, right? And I mean back to your point of people kind of don't know what to do anything for themselves. I mean, people don't know how to boil an egg, because what do you do? You uber eats it.
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::Nika: Everything is literally reliant on these phones right? And we
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::Nika: don't know what the weather is without the phone. We don't know how to get anywhere without the phone. We don't know like
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::Nika: everything. We're so attached to the technology. And you know, I did like a video clip on this several months ago at this stage, where I basically said, that's the biggest noise in your life. The passive scrolling is so detrimental to the brain, especially when you're doing it at night. I mean, think about when you get stuck in that like really great algorithm that Instagram has. And then, before you know it, you're like 2 h just went by.
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::Nika: And you didn't talk to anybody.
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::Nika: You had no nutrition, no, and what I mean by that is, you had no energy coming into you. You just put it all out there, and you just. And you can't even remember anything that you saw.
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::Nika: because none of it was that impactful or made that much of a of a difference. Right?
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::Nika: So I fully agree with you. I
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::Nika: I think there's beauty in going to the grocery store smelling your fruits and vegetables.
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::Nika: having a home cooked meal, with maybe some music in the background, having some great friends. All the phones are off, you know. I love to host in my house, and
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::Nika: no one sits on their phone here
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::Nika: because we're having so much we ask. We're having great time together.
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::Nika: And I think we're really missing that. And I think that is why you're seeing depression rates, anxiety rates, fatigue rates, suicide rates is because it doesn't matter how much you stare into the TV or the cell phone.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're just depleted.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It takes away from your ability to interact with other humans and to feel like you can ask for help.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're wired to help people, especially as women. It's it's just part of the DNA of who we are. We like to help each other.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But when you're steering and you're disconnected because you're connected to an
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to a phone, say, you, you lose the ability to just start conversations with random people and to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to to form connections with people meaningful connections. And you need those meaningful connections because you need to be able to help each other. You need to be able to ask for help and to give help.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And really the the hardest thing is to ask for help. I find that people.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Everybody has some gift, that they're they're innately good at.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and I I find it disheartening that most schools want you to be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Make straight. A's as though this is a
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: this is going to help you somehow in life.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What they really need to do is find out. What are you really passionate about, and what are you good at. And let's just like cram everything we can at you in that direction, so we can make you the very best at that thing that you can possibly be. Let's give you all the resources you need to really
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: take that to the next level.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There'll be somebody else that's good at that other thing that you're not so good at.
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::Nika: So I fully agree with you, and I don't know what the education system used to be here, because I didn't get here till the nineties, but in Poland they still have your high school years are specialized years. So you're actually spending 4 years
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::Nika: going towards a trade, you know. Polish. People were known like, really good in construction engineering stuff like that. So you know.
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::Nika: at 18 you're you're walking out and you know everything. What to do with a car, right or late, or or you know the architectural stuff you're you're pursuing. What is more innate to you, you know. Same difference. Some people are great with numbers. I'm only great at counting money, right? So I'd be a good accountant. But that's where it stops and ends for me right. I just know how to keep a tally on stuff. I'm a great cook.
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::Nika: I could have probably pursued that. But back to your point, you know in the American school system, and I went through the American school system. It's the same story about how Christopher Columbus came to discover America, and he never stepped foot here. So it's
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::Nika: and in a way, I think that's by design. You can call that conspiracy theory. I call it fact right? Because there's a big difference between fact and fiction, and when things just keep 2 plus 2 equaling 4 tends to be
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::Nika: true.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or.
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::Nika: Yeah.
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::Nika: But you know the one thing, and I always give people an example of this is.
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::Nika: there's only 2 things that someone needs to take away from you, to have control over you, and that's your ability to read and write.
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::Nika: And when you're looking at this newer generation, they have no idea how to write in script. Well, all ancient texts
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::Nika: are in script like they can't read Shakespeare right in its original format. They have. They have no clue.
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::Nika: They also have no idea how to sign their names, because everything is on a little on an electric pad. Now, right?
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::Nika: Same thing with the reading. I mean, most States across the United States don't even have a standard anymore for passing right? It's the no child left behind programs. And you're 18, and you still don't know how to read, and you have no idea how to write. So if that person can't read and write, basically in their own native language.
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::Nika: How successful does that make them to broaden those horizons? And I'm not saying there aren't people who
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::Nika: aren't able to, you know, still spread those wings and grow. I'm saying you're you're you're you're backtracking them so far that their starting point is at such a low level that they have so much further to go
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::Nika: than a child who went through a good educational system, you know, was taught critical thinking was taught. Deductive reasoning was taught multiplication right, 4 plus 4 equals 16. And all those things I mean, you know you're and I'm sure you would probably agree this, like as a child, your your brain is a sponge.
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::Nika: There is no overloading that the child's brain, because it's it's just absorbing everything it can and I think that's a scary thing that we're seeing in society. And unfortunately, you know, as we get older, these are the the generations that are going to start making decisions that impact our generations. You know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and and to cram littler and littler kids into schools, and all of the rules that they have about what you're going to inject them with
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: no matter where you fall on that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Oh, I think I'm very anti vaccine, because that's a big part of my health.
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::Nika: History, issue, so.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. So let's talk about that a little bit. Your story is really impactful. And the fact that you're a 1st responder, I'm kind of in awe about that, because
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I know I'm not the typical coach. Huh!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's.
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::Nika: So
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::Nika: footsnose version with my story. I immigrated here in the nineties. I got revaccinated because they wouldn't let me go to the school without it, despite having vaccinated as a child. And you know, in Poland I only got like 6 vaccines right? It's not like what it is now with like the 100 something, you know, almost in somebody's life.
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::Nika: And it started causing huge autoimmune issues for me and I struggled
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::Nika: with everything under the sun. It felt like my! I couldn't stand for long periods of time it felt like my body was crumbling. I couldn't partake in sports as a kid.
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::Nika: I always had, like 8th bandages, you know, wrapped around my wrists, my elbows, my knees, my ankles. I felt like my hips, were on a line. You know I was having, you know, once I started you know, having menstrual cycles, though, were like those were crazy and very much erratic.
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::Nika: I couldn't really sleep more than 40, 45 min at a time like my body would lock up, and then I couldn't unlock myself, so I'd have to like actually use something to unlock my body. And my body was just in a huge state of constant inflammation. I'd get just random fevers I'd be. I could talk to you right now, and all of a sudden the fever will come on. I'm down for the count for 24 h.
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::Nika: and I saw all these different doctors and specialists.
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::Nika: and at 25 years old is the last time that I was hospitalized. I was hospitalized for about 4 days. And the last day a psychiatrist came in, and psychology is one of my undergraduate degrees. So I already knew his line of questioning. And he basically told me he thinks all the ailments I'm experimenting. I'm basically making up
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::Nika: because I've been in here for 4 days. All these specialists have seen me. There is no rhyme, reason, explanation as to why this is happening to me, and
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::Nika: you know physical appearance is a big thing. So here they see a girl who's 5 foot 10, and they're like, and I'm I'm not petite, you know. I've always been. I have like an Amazon body. I'm I'm I'm thicker, I have more body, more muscle. And they're like.
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::Nika: you're fine, I mean, look at you, you know.
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::Nika: and I remember walking out of the hospital just really angry because I'm like, Okay, great. So I spent 4 days in the hospitals as anyone's ever been in a hospital. There's nothing restful about the hospital.
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::Nika: and the doctor decided to diagnose me with fibromyalgia. Basically. If you're familiar with it or your audiences, it's basically a disease of exclusion. So what it means is you don't fall into any of the other criterias.
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::Nika: So it must be this, and he put me on like hardcore protocols with lyrica antidepressant, and a couple of other pills.
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::Nika: and I had this girl that I knew at the time she was a nurse, and she came to my house, and she started badgering me about. Is everything okay? What's going on? And I was like, woman, you're so annoying. What do you want from me? And she's like, why are you on antidepressants? And I'm like, I'm not on antidepressants. And now, granted, this is 25 years ago.
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::Nika: I'm sorry 15 years ago, so I'm like, I'm not an antidepressants. This isn't like you ask Siri, right? Or you screenshot the phone. And then Google tells you right? So she verified that she was right.
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::Nika: I was at that moment so angry, and I felt so betrayed.
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::Nika: that this doctor, who I trusted.
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::Nika: put me on this protocol to make me feel better. I gained 30 pounds in less than a month. I only wanted highly processed sugars like sour patch kids, twizzlers, which is not something. I'm not a sweet tooth person to begin with.
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::Nika: And then on top of that, I started having suicidal thoughts, and
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::Nika: I don't know where I would have been if she didn't intervene like that. That scenario taught. I easily understood why people get addictions to prescription pills, because I was high as a kite like I should not have even been able to walk down the street by myself, and because I'm a bigger human I always get overdosed.
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::Nika: always get overdosed.
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::Nika: So I got so angry I took all those pills. I flushed them down the toilet, and I've never touched a Western medicine pill since that time. I don't even have like a general practitioner, you know, to this day
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::Nika: and
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::Nika: I was very, very fortunate to move to South Korea. And I met an amazing doctor there, and what they do is they'll do like traditional cupping. So a lot of people don't know that cupping is not meant to be with the plastic little suction cups. It's supposed to be a ceramic bowl with oil and fire.
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::Nika: and those are the traditional cups. Which most practitioners won't do because they're afraid of lawsuits, right? Because everyone wants to sue you nowadays.
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::Nika: and she doesn't mind.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That used to do that to me.
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::Nika: Yeah, and to talk.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Glass cups, and it's.
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::Nika: Totally different experience, totally, I mean. And and what people don't realize is traditional. Chinese medicine is very much kind of the approach that I have. So it's the mental, the emotional, the physical and the spiritual approach to the to the individual. Right? It's she didn't look at me and just say, Oh, physically, what was happening.
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::Nika: So I probably had the cups on for about 15 to 20 min, and
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::Nika: I she walked in, and I heard like a clipboard or something fall, and she's like Chincha. And in Korean it's like, Oh, wow! Like really like, you know, you know, like a surprise. And in her broken English and my broken Korean.
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::Nika: She I will never forget. She looked at me and she goes.
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::Nika: You're in so much pain, your body has so much pain
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::Nika: and like to this day. It it brings me chills, because that is the 1st time at
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::Nika: 2627 years old.
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::Nika: Someone looked at me, and I didn't have to tell her I was. She saw that I was in pain.
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::Nika: and she taught me other things, and that got me down the road of kind of trying different things. I started to go back to
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::Nika: eating a more traditional Polish diet, which is which I was raised on and flying back and forth to Poland, because all my family is still back there, and, you know, doing like honey massages. That sounds great. The most painful massage of my existence. Oh, my God! I mean.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Little tiny sand. It's like honey is like sand.
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::Nika: Oh, I mean but the way that the honey attaches to the body right and just like brings all the muscle up, you know, like Mongolian kniving Acupressure acupuncture like you name it. I've tried it on the search to get better and to feel better, and finally, at 35 was the 1st time I felt this body without inflammation.
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::Nika: Right? Because you you don't really know what's on the other side of the rainbow, because this has been your standard modem of operation for decades.
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::Nika: and not only at 35 did I experience my body for the 1st time without inflammation, I felt reconnected to my body, I was able to sleep. I've only been sleeping for 5 years now, and like people think that sounds funny, but.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: No.
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::Nika: You know, but it's like that's like a thing, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's a huge deal.
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::Nika: Huge deal, you know, because you're not regenerating and
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::Nika: on top of being someone who experienced a lot of physical ailments. I'm a child of a lot of trauma as well. So I always had this like, I decided, when I was a teenager like I'm no longer going to be a victim. So then I put on my Xena warrior, Princess outfit, and I was like, I'm I'm a survivor, and I didn't realize
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::Nika: that. Yes, I was surviving this body every single day. But I was also surviving all of this mental and emotional baggage that I brought on, and it's the the most interesting journey happened for me at 35, when my body came to a place of homeostasis, and I wasn't battling it anymore.
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::Nika: I now had to deal with myself like I had to deal with what was happening in here and in here
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::Nika: and
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::Nika: through. You know, I tried like traditional therapy and stuff like that, and none of it worked. I felt like I always ended up therapizing the therapists in a lot of ways, because I have.
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::Nika: you know, like you were saying about gifts like.
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::Nika: I'm just. My intuition is just a little crazy, like I just see someone I know. I just. I instantly see you, and I know you. There's no guessing. There's no cold reading. I just I I can feel you. And
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::Nika: as I started going through my own mental and emotional healing I found peace.
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::Nika: But the craziest thing happened is, I found peace at the expense of losing my anger.
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::Nika: and I didn't really realize that anger and I were besties, and anger is what was my drive, my motivation, my reason. I wasn't giving up on stuff.
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::Nika: and when I lost that anger and I found peace. I just I was kind of lost like I didn't. I didn't know where my trajectory was. I? Just this was a new state of existence, physically, mentally, emotionally, for me like, who am I?
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::Nika: And I just kind of sat with that space for a while, and then the more calmer and the more stiller and the more
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::Nika: balanced I got.
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::Nika: Spirituality came kind of knocking. And I've always been someone where, like, you know, I'm at a wedding, and someone sits in there with me for 3 h telling me their life story, or I'm at a swim bar in Mexico, or people just gravitate towards me, you know. This is why, usually, when I'm out of public, I'm very like, you know, the Rbf. Don't talk to me right, and I'm a natural empath. So everyone, just
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::Nika: I feel everybody's stuff, you know, on top of me. And and most people are not responsible with their energies and their emotions. Right?
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::Nika: and I didn't start. My company stole out wellness because I was like, I want to be an entrepreneur. Let me go get a certification and become like a life coach.
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::Nika: I started it because I felt like there was a need for it, and being a 1st responder, you know, for over a decade now. And also being in an Emr.
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::Nika: I work with a population of people that everyone always talks about needs help, and everyone always discusses that. Hey, you know. Yeah, we we gotta start a program for them and do this.
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::Nika: But those programs are run by someone who's never walked a mile in my shoes.
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::Nika: And I in in, you know, in the family of Blue, like we're not trusting of people outside of that blue family. It's the same thing with the military, right? It's the same thing with the nurses and stuff.
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::Nika: Oh, outsiders are not welcome because you're not gonna be able to come in here and tell me, you know, you know. Do box breathing, you know, when you have no idea what it's like to not even be able to de-stress or decompress, because you're constantly on right.
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::Nika: and that's kind of my very long journey. Tried to condense it. To where I'm at now in my life, and the reason I I started my company is because I want to help people. I want people to understand. You can make phenomenal changes with tiny little little adjustments on a daily basis like this doesn't need a whole Jillian Michaels, like Makeover, you know, love her. I think she's great, but
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::Nika: you don't have to go to that extreme. You 1st and foremost just need to reconnect with you to really start that journey of where you want to be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. And so do you work primarily with 1st responders and and police officers. Is that.
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::Nika: You would, you'd be surprised. I actually have no like coaches always talk about like their perfect client. I don't have one. I literally work with everyone. So I've worked with people who've had infertility issues.
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::Nika: they were able to get pregnant working with me after a decade of trying everything under the sun. I've worked with people who, you know, are sex addicts
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::Nika: people who want to lose weight. Other people who have, like, you know, autoimmune issues and ailments, mental health issues. Ptsd, I think
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::Nika: I tend to, though, have a lot more male clients than I find most people within this space.
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::Nika: and I think maybe that has to do that. My energy is more like I'm more of a tomboy, and you know only girl in the family grow up with nothing. But boys always males were my friends. I literally work with thing but men all day, so I think that's made me
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::Nika: I think men just instantly get a little more comfortable. You know. I I'm not a like. I always kind of laugh, because I'm like the anti appearance of what a a life coach health coach should look like right like
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::Nika: I'm not like. Oh, my God! Let's meditate, you know. Great! We can do that. But let's get.
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::Nika: You know I have a more like aggressive or more assertive more in your face.
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::Nika: My energy is like a wrecking ball, you know, and it's the same thing for me like I won't necessarily work with just any client
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::Nika: because my time is limited, and if I'm going to work with you, we're getting results like 1,000 results will be had. But you have to make sure you're ready for it, like I don't do very well on the coddling end of things. So there are people that have have tried to work with me and request to work with me, and I I will 100 refer to them, someone else. But I, my methods, and just who I am as a person.
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::Nika: you need to be a hundred percent with it.
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::Nika: Let's go. We're going straight into 6th gear. Right? The warmup needs to come before the session with me.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and you're responsible for it to do the pre-warm ups.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So you you offer an ability for people to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: connect with you on that level.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So I let me let me back up just a minute. Mostly you're you're doing one on one coaching. Is that correct?
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::Nika: Yes and no. I do do group coaching, and I do. Family coaching. I do marriage counseling, coaching. I do one on one. It just depends. You know I'm I'm very accommodating because I don't believe in a 1. Size fits all, and therefore, unlike a lot of people in the space. I don't have a program. For example.
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::Nika: I always see my coaching style as like a fine Italian suit shop. Right? You come into the shop. We figure out the material that's right for you, the cut, the length, the style, and you walk out looking like a million bucks. You don't come into my store with the suits already pre-made, and we try to figure out which one fits you. So
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::Nika: I've I've worked with family dynamics. I've worked with, you know relationships, marriages, various things.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So you're more of a life coach slash health coach in that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: From what you're what you're saying, the the thing that I'm taking away from you is that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you have to have all of the pieces
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: working together, and you're willing to address whatever the weak piece is in order to get somebody in a more holistic state, and once you reach that state of homeostasis, you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you become a healthier, you know, when your thoughts aren't constantly like anxious thoughts about things that you can't control. When you're sleeping better, when you're you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: When you have those things under control, you automatically kind of make better food choices. And you're you're feeling better. So you're going to be
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: exercising more
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and interacting with other people. So your relationships also get better. I mean. It's just like. And then, when your relationships get better, your spirituality feels better, you, you feel more connected to other people and to nature and to God and to you know all of all of the things that make us
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what we are.
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::Nika: Yeah, I I always use an example of, let's say.
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::Nika: if a client wants to lose weight, they've been struggling, you know. They've yo-yo throughout their life
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::Nika: you could come work with me. I will write you a nutrition plan. If you don't know how to cook, I will even come to your house. I can help you how to do some simple recipes. We can go to the grocery stores like I'm very hands on with every client that I work with, we can go to the gym. I can set you up on a workout plan.
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::Nika: But what happens the minute you stop working with me
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::Nika: you're gonna gain all that weight plus then some, because now you're depressed.
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::Nika: Therefore you're going to gain even more weight, because at the end of the day I have failed you as your coach.
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::Nika: because the weight, the re, the the you being oversized, is not the issue. The real issue is, why are you fat. To begin with, what is going on underneath the hood of the car that we need to work on, we need to address
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::Nika: in order for you
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::Nika: to not be fat, and it has nothing to do with appearance. It has nothing to do with your waist size it has to do with
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::Nika: how healthy you are. And a lot of people think health is this goal when health is a lifestyle, and health needs to be.
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::Nika: From what I've seen on every client that I've worked with. I've never had a client come to me for what they think they're coming to me for, and that's the work in the area that we did on right when you're balanced
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::Nika: and you have to for every person. Some people have to start in the mental stuff. Some people we need to get rid of some emotional stuff. Some people gotta work on the physical. Some people literally come to me because
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::Nika: like I had the gentleman I worked with. He's an empath, and he's gone through some really crazy spiritual stuff, and he didn't know how to kind of heal from it, like he just didn't know where to go, what to do, and we worked with him on that. And when that spiritual stuff started kind of reaching that homeostasis, his sleeping got better. His mental and emotional state got better. He naturally right. So it all it all trickles because it's all intertwined.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it really is. And so many people wander around, they're so miserable. And they're they're like, Oh, I just got to lose 10 pounds. Well.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: weight's just a symptom. It is not the disease in and of itself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And once you get to the root of whatever's causing those problems, then everything else is going to go away. You're not going to be
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: at the weight you were when you were at the peak of your fitness, which is usually for women in their late teens.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know. I don't know why, as women, we think that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we have to fit some artificial scale of what we're supposed to look like at any stage of our lives. It's just like.
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::Nika: I think I mean, you know we grew. I grew up seeing the magazines right.
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::Nika: You see, you know, I when I was a young girl growing up nineties was still that heroin chic era kind of right in the beginning, where.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Like a skinnier. Look at.
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::Nika: Right, the cable.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Girls to look like grown women. To look like little boys is what I equate it to.
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::Nika: Yeah, right now, now, we're in this Bbl era, which I laugh because I've basically had like a Bbl body, you know, since I was 12, and now everyone's getting, you know their boobs and their butts and everything done. But then, like, watch a decade from now it's gonna polarize.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: This is.
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::Nika: Thing, else.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Shift, different.
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::Nika: And.
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::Nika: And I always think I always think this is something that's very funny about females is, you know, women always talk about like supporting each other and empowerment, but they're the 1st ones to kind of rip you down, and you know I've had people get on me my whole life. Oh, Nika, you know.
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::Nika: Why have you never dyed your hair? Oh, you know this. This is the color I was born with, like I don't. I don't have time for 6 h at a salon in my life. Right? Why don't you do your nails? I don't know. I thought clean little nails were fine by me. I didn't. You know
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::Nika: I didn't know there was like this standard that I'm failing at being a woman.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I noticed my legs aren't shaved. I have a daughter, she's 21, and I admire my daughter so much she doesn't shave her legs. She doesn't shave her armpits. She's an American. In America. Women shave their armpits, but sometimes she dyes her armpit hair pink.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She she does die.
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::Nika: On the other end of the spectrum.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She's way on the other end. It's just like, and she's she. I think she's 5, 10.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She always wanted to be really tall. I'm 5 5, but my family I have 2 sisters and my mother, and they're all like 5 feet tall, and I thought I was a giant my whole life, and we lived in Japan and places where women were traditionally smaller. And I, when you said you were like 5, 10, and and your mom was 4 foot nothing I'm like, oh, girl, you're my! You're my people.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is traumatic when you're around short women, and and you're tall, and you have tomboy tendencies where you just want to like, get it done. Just get out of my way. You're too short to do this.
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::Nika: Yeah. And I mean, my mom is 4, 11 and 88 pounds. I've literally been bigger than her. My entire existence.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Nika: And it's like I am physically the size and the weight, and of a man. I just have curves right? It's that's the only difference between
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::Nika: between me and and a guy. But you know my mom loves to to this day to be like, oh, I never treat you that way. Who do. You are calling me to move your laundry machines, and you are calling me to move your refrigerators, and you know but the she wrote like lady. Don't bamboozle me now, you know, so cause you couldn't reach.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Gaslighting. I'm sorry, mom.
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::Nika: Definitely.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Love you. But no.
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::Nika: That's not.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How it was then we have these as
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: well. I'm not gonna speak for you, but I know when I was a teenager, and my sisters were all under a hundred pounds, and I started, you know, going up the scale. I was thinking there was like something horribly wrong with me, and it was during like the seventies when
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, Twiggy was in style.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I'm getting curves and having all kinds of problems, because we moved around a lot, and we had lots of vaccines, and you know I was always bigger, so they always overdosed me. And I mean, it's just like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I had the Mmr. Shot and I had measles and the mumps on both sides.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's okay.
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::Nika: So I'm gonna tell you something that's really funny. I never knew I was tall.
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::Nika: I did not know I was tall until graduation day of high school, when I'm in the back, because they did like boys on one side, girls on the other, and did it like, by ho! And I'm like.
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::Nika: why am I here with the basketball girls like, why am I back here.
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::Nika: I had no idea because I didn't really. I just always thought I was fat. I just always thought I was like Fiona, you know, Shrex, Fiona, because I wasn't. I remember there was a a store, I think, was called like
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::Nika: like 1, 3, 5, or something like that, where they only carried like those sizes like 0 to like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. 5 like some little girl sizes.
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::Nika: Right, I mean, my thighs were bigger than most of the girls waist. I've always had body to me right, and it's I always grew up with this
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::Nika: being like, you know, I remember as a young kid trying to try diet pills and stuff like that because I was fat, right? No one told me. Hey, dummy, you have body. You're 5 foot 10. You're not going to be small and petite, you know. I never could wear my mom's clothes or shoes. I mean, my one foot is bigger than her face, right? So it's
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::Nika: you know, she's mom's tiny like from the back. She looks like my little 8 year old child, or something, and you know for me, I remember I was back in Poland, and I was
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::Nika: 25 at the time, and I found one of the few photos of me as a little kid, because, you know, photography was very expensive. I to this day still think the milkman dropped me off. But
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::Nika: And I see a photo, and it's my mom. It's me, and it's my paternal grandmother and my paternal grandmother is almost
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::Nika: a a half of the photo, because my paternal grandmother was tall, like Jessica Rabbit body, you know, big boobs hips. But right?
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::Nika: And my mom is like this little tiny like little dirt on the other side of the photo. And then here's me like sitting up. And I was like, Oh, you know, I'm like, how tall like, how old am I in this photo? Like 2, you know, 2 and a half, and I was like, no, you were like 9 months.
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::Nika: I'm like almost as tall as she is in that photo, you know. I started walking, and I was out of diapers at 9 months old.
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::Nika: So I looked at my mother and I go. You've convinced me my whole life. I've been fat.
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::Nika: what? And she goes. I never told you that she's like that was your that's what you told yourself
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::Nika: so. No, I mean, I completely get it, you know. And I mean it. It's like. I tell people now, and I really am not joking. When I say this
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::Nika: I look the best I've ever looked at 40, and I know, like, oh, 40, I should be already planning my deathbed right? Because that's society's attitude, and and the people.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: A girl's life begins at 60.
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::Nika: I. You know what I'm looking forward to it. My goal is 1 20. So I got a long way to go. But I I look better than I've ever looked. I am
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::Nika: in an amazing place across all levels of my life, whether they're emotional, mental, physical, financial, spiritual.
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::Nika: you know. And I'm just excited, for, like what this journey is to bring, you know I I grew up from a lot of pain and a lot of trauma, and I've experienced a lot of things in my life, and I didn't think I'd see 40. I just turned 40 in October, and I didn't think I'd see 40. So I didn't really have a game plan for what 40 was supposed to be like in my world. Right? If that kind of makes sense.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Nika: And I feel like, maybe that's by design, because I think this part of my, this decade of my existence is just letting things flow. And
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::Nika: you know it's even like with my company, you know. If you build it, they will come. And that's just the mentality that I have with what I'm doing and where I'm going with my life. I'm just letting it kind of flow, and I'm trusting in in the divine order, or God or spirit, whatever you want to call it, you know, and
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::Nika: I have to say, following life on this path is so much more fulfilling
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::Nika: and like. It's kind of hard to like, even put into words. You know, if that kind of makes sense.
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::Nika: it's just a totally different way of existence.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm so excited for you, because really
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I had 2 more kids after I was 40
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have 5 kids. The last of them was born when I was 44,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and so by the time I hit 60 that was the 1st time all of my kids were starting to like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: be adults and and move out. And it's
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's that time in life where women
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: women go through a variety of stages in their lives. And we? We tend to say, Okay, you're a kid, and then you're a preteen, and then you're a teen, and then you're a young woman, and then you're
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: should be having children, and then you should be going through menopause. Okay, now you're done. We'll put you on the shelf, kick you out on the ice flow. We don't need you anymore, but I don't.
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::Nika: So. But to interject, I think the sad part about it is, it's not meant saying that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: No, it's women.
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::Nika: It's women.
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::Nika: It's women I I have never met a guy who's like,
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::Nika: 40. They're like, okay, they're like, you look good. You look 28, you know, like I have, like a tiny little mascara on, you know. Just so. I don't look as tired as I am right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What do you do?
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::Nika: Women who are like
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::Nika: girl. That clock is ticking. You gotta get on it. You gotta get on it right now.
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::Nika: You know I'm here to tell you, you don't need to. It's gonna be what it's gonna be. We're here for an experience. And and really.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To my way of thinking. When I hit 60 it was just like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's just like a whole level of freedom
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: entered my life, you know, freedom to just like be me. I stopped caring what people thought of me or
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: how they reacted to me. And if they didn't want to deal with me. That's fine. Don't deal with me.
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::Nika: Yeah, I agree.
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::Nika: I think
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::Nika: I think we could reach that level of existence so much sooner if more people were on that same path.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes.
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::Nika: You know, because, unfortunately, like, you know, even when I started my company.
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::Nika: you would. And I don't know if you've had this experience, you know, when you started your show and your company and stuff. But
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::Nika: the number one people who had 0 support for me were my friends and family
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::Nika: right. They I had more compliments and more support from complete strangers
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::Nika: than I did for my family, because I think it comes from the fact that
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::Nika: change is scary, right, and no one likes to be uncomfortable right? We live in the era of ultimate comfort.
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::Nika: But you you will never go from a place of comfort, and I think those of us who decided to embark on that journey, I think, are now really seeing and reaping those rewards.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think so too, and I think the tide is turning, and I think more and more women are realizing that they didn't have to buy into this
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: line that they've been fed their whole lives, that they can just be who they are, and the world needs us to be who we are. We don't have to be everything, but we need to be ourselves.
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::Nika: Yes, I fully agree.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So people can get in touch with you through your website, which is
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: stolat wellness. Is that correct.com, and that's STOL, a, TWEL LNES. s.com, and you can connect with Nika to have a conversation with her about what it is that you would like your life to look like, and where you are right now, and she will
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: help you figure out the best way.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the best next step. Let's put it that way. Does that about sum it up, Nika.
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::Nika: Yeah, I always tell people you know I'm I'm your personal bridge, so use me. However you want. We will walk through that bridge together to get over to the other side. Whether we're like moonwalking, sitting, crawling, crying. It doesn't matter. I'm a big believer, my job as your coach is. You use me as a mirror of self reflection. Right? Stick everything onto me. Let's clean up, you know the cobwebs. Let's reorganize stuff.
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::Nika: Let's remove some of that debris to really fast track you to your full potential, because the strongest thing that you have in your arsenal is your imagination. So if you can imagine yourself in that place. You're already 80% of their there. Sometimes you just need a little help getting that other 20% set into into motion.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's perfect. Thank you so much for joining us today, Nika.
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::Nika: Thank you very much. It was an absolute pleasure, Jill.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To learn more about Nika and to schedule a chat about working with Nika. Please look at her website, stolatwellness.com, and we'll be sure and put those links in the show notes below. Thank you for tuning in with us today. If you have a podcast or you're interested in starting one to get in front of our
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