Vision Boards, Authentic Living & the Truth About Manifestation with Steve Gamlin
You’ve made the vision board—but why isn’t it working? In this heart-opening and laugh-out-loud conversation, Steve Gamlin, creator of Vision Board Mastery and host of Motivational Firewood, shares the real reasons most vision boards fail—and how to fix them.
We explore the power of aligned action, the myth of overnight success, why becoming the person who has the dream matters more than just chasing it, and how moments of love, loss, and connection shape the journey.
Tune in to learn how to create meaningful goals, stay tuned into divine signs (yes, even pink ice cream and hawks), and build a life you actually love living.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You create that gorgeous vision board, you're certain all your dreams will come true, and then nothing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Our next guest will share with us the 5 biggest ways people screw up their vision boards. And how you can avoid making those mistakes yourself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Hi, and welcome to the you world order showcase podcast where we feature life, health, transformational coaches and spiritual entrepreneurs being the change that they seek in the world. I'm, your host, Jill Hart, the coaches alchemist on a mission to help entrepreneurs
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and coaches, amplify their voice, monetize their mission and get visible leveraging podcasts and the huge audience. We have over on the Gnostic TV network. Today we are chatting with Steve Gamlin as creator of the Vision Board Mastery learning program and coaching community. Steve's mission is to educate individuals, entrepreneurs and corporate teams to see their goals be the best version of themselves, and do all the necessary actions required to get there.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: He is also the host of the motivational Firewood podcast welcome to the show, Steve. It's really great to chat with you today.
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::Steve Gamlin: Thank you, Jill, very happy to be invited, and definitely looking forward to our conversation.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Me, too, so I'm going to ask you the big question. Are you ready.
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::Steve Gamlin: Sure! Fire away!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay, what's the most significant thing in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going.
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::Steve Gamlin: We can be our most authentic selves every day. And I shared that earlier today
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::Steve Gamlin: our industry, personal development, etc, and business, is so full of fakery and snake oil, and all the other Bs that floats around, that we sometimes get on our shoes just for being part of it. If people can just go out there and be the best version of themselves, the most pure version in accordance with their core values and integrity. Every single day.
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::Steve Gamlin: They're putting the right ripples in the water, and their vibe will attract the correct tribe for them to succeed and help others as well. So, being the best version of ourselves every day is the key.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that I love that a lot. It's
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we don't have to be the best at everything.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: just the thing that we're here to be good at, and it should be easy for us. If you're struggling.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you're doing the wrong thing, man, something else.
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::Steve Gamlin: I agree.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So you're you're a big proponent of vision boards. How? How does all this look?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Does does it have to be like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: in the old days we used to get magazines and cut out pictures, but
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: how do we do it these days?
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::Steve Gamlin: These days, you know, the best place to start is by putting away all things electronic and sitting down with a pen and paper
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::Steve Gamlin: somewhere where nobody knows you.
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::Steve Gamlin: where. You can just sit and think and ponder and look inside yourself, you know. Gone are the days like you said about gathering up a bunch of magazines and cutting out pictures of Lamborghinis yachts, mansions, private jets, big honking gold watches, and a pile of cash in your basement on a bunch of pallets, and that's a beautiful letter to Santa Claus for all that material stuff. My biggest thing that I have. My 1st conversation with people is. Don't tell me what you want. Tell me the person you want to become on the way to getting
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::Steve Gamlin: what you wish to enjoy in your life, and I also. I have no problem with any of the things I said.
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::Steve Gamlin: but that all falls under material wealth and money.
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::Steve Gamlin: Tell me what the rest of your life looks like physical health, emotional well-being, closest relationships, your core values, your faith, your connection with people in real ways, and then your work
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::Steve Gamlin: and your money. All that stuff's happening 24, 7. So probably a good idea
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::Steve Gamlin: to state your desired outcomes for each of those categories. So you're not just chasing the material stuff.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's a great way to keep the material stuff from just slipping away, too, because it's like we all heard the stories of the lottery winners who, you know, they have hundreds of millions of dollars one year, and the next year they're flat broke worse off than they were before they ever won the lottery, because they didn't have time to become
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the person that they needed to become in order to enjoy the benefits of the the fruits that that kind of a windfall can give you. It's very rare. You're going to find somebody that just gets a windfall and doesn't fritter it away.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, I see those shows, and I mean as much as I laugh at them. I actually, I feel really bad for these people, because they thought that was going to be the end. All be all. And then many of them wind up, divorced, or addicted to something, or just completely depressed, and there are. There's a significant number of them who say afterwards, I wish I had never won the lottery.
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::Steve Gamlin: Because their life is just damaged beyond repair by all of that
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::Steve Gamlin: pressure, and they became someone they never wanted to become in the process.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They didn't plan for becoming. They just allowed fate in some ways to.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you don't plan your life, your life will plan for you. You know.
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::Steve Gamlin: You might not like the finish line.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Actors sometimes fall into this category, especially people that became famous when they were really young because they weren't taught how to how to live
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: a life, being themselves especially because they are actors, and they're taught to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: live a life where you're something that you're not.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know. It's it's a pretend world, and really, probably the whole world is a pretend world, and on some level. But there's there's ways that you can
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: align yourself to be the person that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the circumstances that you're in fit, rather than trying to push the person you're in into a different set of circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: or allow others to push you, which happens a lot with actors.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Their parents push them into this, and then they don't know that there's other alternatives for how to exist and then enjoy their prosperity
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and share their prosperity. Because I think prosperity is one of those things that it's not just for us to enjoy. It's for our communities to enjoy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And when you get caught in this this web of you know, it's mine or mine. It just like it never works.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, they're always playing someone else's role. And that's that's really sad. A lot of them wind up so lost in themselves. That's why there's so much addiction and depression, and
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::Steve Gamlin: just I mean so many people now with social media. They are crashing and burning left and right. And it's it's really sad, and I would never
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::Steve Gamlin: want fame.
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::Steve Gamlin: I would love to be more well known within my industry and among my clients and my target audience, but I would never want
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::Steve Gamlin: fame for fame's sake, ever I love being able to just go somewhere, be unrecognized. But when I plug in on stage
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::Steve Gamlin: those people know that that's the authentic version of me, talking directly with them and connecting with their eyeballs. No image, no Fluff, no Bs, no Hollywood magic.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Are you a comedian like? Do you go on stage and.
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::Steve Gamlin: I used to be. I did 7 years of stand up comedy, and I was in the radio industry for 10 years, and I've been speaking now, for this will be my 21st year, so I've taken all those little bits and pieces from along the way, and learned how to craft my messages in such a way that it's a blend of positivity, humor, storytelling.
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::Steve Gamlin: and a very unique way of explaining everything that I explain where so many people think visualization. They go. It's too woo-woo!
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::Steve Gamlin: My answer to that is well, good, because I'm blue Collar woo, meaning I will hand you the tools. We'll roll up our sleeves, and I'll show you how the tools work, and we'll create something cool together. But there's nothing mystical
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::Steve Gamlin: in the way that I teach this stuff.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I like that. I'm definitely woo. But I look at woo as just science that hasn't been explained yet.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, pretty much and see you get it. You know we don't. I don't have to explain the science or say, there's this amazing thing happening right now. I just say, if you do this, this here over here is more likely to happen.
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::Steve Gamlin: It's like with a car, you know. I just bought a chevy pickup.
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::Steve Gamlin: I don't know how to work on the engines anymore, because they're all computerized. I just trust that the fine folks at Chevrolet knew what they were doing when they said, If you just push this button it'll run and get you somewhere. Well, that's how I treat visualization.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, it's really like that. And there are people that are really good at, like the tearing the motor apart. And I have a son that's like this, and he wants to tell me about all the nitty gritty and right over my head. It's his thing, but not mine, and and I'm grateful to him, because when it's not working I can take it to him and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Bob, there's something not right here, and he'll say, Mom, I Gotcha. I don't have to worry about it. I know that when I get it back I can just push that button, and I think the same goes for you when you're working with people. You know how the ins and outs of it work to a certain extent.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: but you can just
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: help them to be able to apply the the tools. The car in this case in our analogy, and and let them get on their merry way towards the direction that they want to go in.
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::Steve Gamlin: Exactly, but they need to know what that direction is, and too many people fall prey to the gurus out there who are, just, you know, screaming, Rah! Rah! Rah! Buy my stuff! And saying that success is defined by all those things I mentioned earlier, the Lamborghini, the yacht, the mansion, the private jet and all that stuff.
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::Steve Gamlin: Hey? You know what I am. So I'm I'm all for hard work.
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::Steve Gamlin: but I have always been very much against, because it almost killed me. The hustle and grind mindset where it's just put your head down and just grind and grind and grind to the effect of pushing every other part of your life off to the side, and someday, at this mythical future date you'll be able to look up and celebrate with everything you've got.
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::Steve Gamlin: I tried to do that once, and it almost killed me. It actually completely demolished my life.
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::Steve Gamlin: and from the ashes of that led to everything I'm doing now.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's really interesting to me how you can. When you're young. You're told that you just. You know you got to do well in school you got to make straight A's, and then you got to go to college, and then you got to do this and you got to do that, and and you got to work for 20 or 40 years, and then and then
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: then, when you get to be 65, I'm 65. Now you can retire
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and sit in front of your television and wait to die. Because really, that is the American dream that most people it's really a nightmare. But that's the life most people in the United States live. They're fed this this line that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: when you hit 65 you're all done, and you better have worked really, really hard your whole life
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to get to that point.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you, you're not living your life. You're you're spending time in your car. You have really good relationship with your car and your audio books, or maybe the radio back in the old days. But
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you're not. You're not living a life. You're not going outside, and, you know, enjoying your garden, or
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: meeting friends, or just walking, and and having a conversation and noticing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: noticing life happening around you. It's like stuck glued to your whatevers
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to do your job, or in my case we used to just be stuck in cubicles inside. There was one summer when I was in my twenties that I did not see the sun all summer
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I went into work before it was light, and I worked in in a cubicle in the interior of this office building, and I left after it was dark. It was.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It was awful.
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::Steve Gamlin: 40 days.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I did not want to live like that. It was in San Diego, too.
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::Steve Gamlin: You got that fluorescent
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::Steve Gamlin: but light bulb tan going by the end of the summer, where you could almost like see through your arm, because.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, and there's so much your body, you know, soulfully and healthfully, are missing by missing sunlight.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, it was. And those those
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: fluorescent lights. They used to love so much they they give off a buzz there's an energy that they give off. That's really not good for you as a human being. So I didn't last in that job very long, because.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: yeah, it slowly drives people crazy to be in situations like that. And people don't realize that it's driving them crazy. But it it does drive you crazy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So then I decided to, you know, start envisioning a better future for myself.
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::Steve Gamlin: Perfect.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So what are your greatest successes through visualization.
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::Steve Gamlin: When I was 11 years old I wanted to be a radio Dj, a stand-up comedian, an author of my own books, and a teacher of people, but not in a classroom setting. So over the years I manifested a 10 year radio career, 7 years of standup comedy. I've self-published 4 books.
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::Steve Gamlin: and my greatest one, though, happens
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::Steve Gamlin: in the early 2 thousands. After I blew up my radio career, my 1st marriage ended in divorce, and at age 35. I was $62,000 in debt
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::Steve Gamlin: because I had not been watching my money.
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::Steve Gamlin: and I took out a $30,000 line of credit to build a recording studio and then quit my radio job so I couldn't pay it back right away.
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::Steve Gamlin: So from all of that I decided I was going to follow a path that
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::Steve Gamlin: was more fulfilling for me. So I became a speaker and a stand-up comedian on the same day.
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::Steve Gamlin: and I
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::Steve Gamlin: decided I only wanted to fall in love one more time, like deep, real, honest, connected soulmate love. And I spent more than 2 years. This is when I 1st started using vision boards. This is around 2,004, 2,005.
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::Steve Gamlin: I started to create the dream version of my ultimate relationship, using pictures in scenarios, in stories, in situations, and then decided, well, if I want to attract that type of relationship. I better work on some of my skills being more open and communicative, and
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::Steve Gamlin: worked on myself for close to 3 years, and in June, early June of 2,007 I wrote in my journal, I'm ready to fall in love.
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::Steve Gamlin: And on June 16th I received an email from someone named Tina and I almost deleted it
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::Steve Gamlin: because I thought it was junk mail.
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::Steve Gamlin: and the next day I realized it was a girl I'd gone to high school with hadn't seen or spoken to in 21 years.
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::Steve Gamlin: and I answered back, and she sent her number, and I waited a couple of days and called, and we started talking on the phone.
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::Steve Gamlin: and she would not send me a picture of herself. Nor did she have a social media footprint.
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::Steve Gamlin: And as we started talking and communicating. I remembered I had a crush on her in high school for 3 years, but never had the guts to ask her out.
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::Steve Gamlin: and here she was 10 days after I wrote in my journal, and ready to fall in love. She showed back up in my life.
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::Steve Gamlin: and at that point she lived 1,350 miles away. I was still in New Hampshire. She was then in Florida.
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::Steve Gamlin: In a month. In. To this conversation
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::Steve Gamlin: she sent me a text and asked, Can I tell you something if you promise not to freak out. And I said, Sure!
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::Steve Gamlin: And then she responded, here's how I really felt about you in high school. Here's how I felt when I saw your name online and then sent you the email.
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::Steve Gamlin: I got your email response. And then I 1st heard your voice. And here's how I feel right now. And she texted, 1, 4, 3, which I had to look up. Which is the code, for I love you.
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::Steve Gamlin: And as soon as I looked it up and realized one letter, 4 letters, 3 letters. I love you.
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::Steve Gamlin: I texted back. I love you, too.
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::Steve Gamlin: and we got to be in love head over heels in love for 6,386 days, that's 17 and a half years, until, unfortunately, in early December of last year, she passed away unexpectedly at age 56.
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::Steve Gamlin: And the reason I share that is because something
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::Steve Gamlin: you mentioned earlier about creating all these moments along the way.
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::Steve Gamlin: and not just putting your head down at your desk and working your brains out to have this
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::Steve Gamlin: someday thing when you get to slow down and retire and enjoy.
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::Steve Gamlin: We enjoyed every single day
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::Steve Gamlin: on purpose, with purpose, created thousands of moments, and she is still very much with me.
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::Steve Gamlin: She's very much part of our home.
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::Steve Gamlin: She passed away 3,000 miles from home. We were traveling in Europe at the time.
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::Steve Gamlin: but she is very much here, and I'm grateful for as as heartbroken as I am with the loss of of my Tina.
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::Steve Gamlin: I'm grateful that we lived our life the best relationship either of us had ever had.
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::Steve Gamlin: and it was a 1 in a million. We brought a fairy tale to life, and our story got me on Oprah's radio network on Xm satellite 4 times around 2,010 and 11.
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::Steve Gamlin: It was that good.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's so amazing. But it's not.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's not like you're the only one this could ever happen to.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I think that's part of your story is that you show people how to have this for themselves.
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::Steve Gamlin: Down
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::Steve Gamlin: in all areas of their lives. People look at me some days and say, Oh, Steve, you're so lucky this happened. Oh, Steve, you're so lucky this happened. I've lost 39 pounds in the past 4 years, and not had a drop of alcohol, because I didn't like the way my life was going, designed a better one.
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::Steve Gamlin: put down the rum and started walking, and picked up a water bottle, and just kept
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::Steve Gamlin: going, and all of these opportunities to connect with people and learn better ways to work out, learn more effective diet. And all of this
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::Steve Gamlin: because I created a vision of what I wanted didn't say what I didn't want.
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::Steve Gamlin: said what I wanted, and created visions of it in tracking systems and action plans in a map.
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::Steve Gamlin: And that's how this works. It's not a straight shot up a roller coaster and over with one of these jet powered cars. Now it's like an old wooden roller coaster. You start at the parking lot level. Any one of your goals is the top of that person. But then you have to go. Click.
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::Steve Gamlin: click, click, click, and I'm sorry if it's not fast enough for you.
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::Steve Gamlin: It doesn't go like that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, if it goes like that, there's something wrong with your car.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, exactly exactly all these people these days saying, Well, I want instant results. Okay, good luck with that.
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::Steve Gamlin: Because again, you're going to get acclimated going up that hill to be a healthier person, or a more loving person, or a more effective business person or entrepreneur, whatever it is you're looking for. You're going to become that person along the journey from Point A to Point B.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I noticed that you said you put down the rum bottle. You didn't quit drinking.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's a there's a difference in the the way that we talk to ourselves. I embraced sobriety almost 3 years ago now, but I embraced sobriety. I didn't like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: stop doing anything. I just chose a different path, and I personally feel like it's it's opened up. My
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: my spirituality, I guess, is the best way to put it in terms of I just like I
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: being clear, you receive messages and information comes to you and it it could be your guides. It could be whatever I just. It's just a knowing like, you know, when you're getting information. That's not from your conscious mind.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I don't know what it is I like to call mine, Joan and the unicorns, but you know that's just me.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, that's cool.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Don't people talk to dragons? I talk to unicorns.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah.
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::Steve Gamlin: And you're so right with that, it's like people saying, I lost 49 pounds.
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::Steve Gamlin: I just say I kicked 39 pounds to the curb, and I'm not circling back around to pick it up.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Steve Gamlin: You know I'm not denying myself anything I didn't say I've got to quit drinking. I just
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::Steve Gamlin: on May 4th of 2021. I just looked at the rum bottle that night. It was just a habit every night to make a very tall rum and coke to relax, and that night. I opened the pantry door, saw the rum bottle, gave it the finger with a big smile, and just started laughing. I just said, You know what not today.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. And it's not even.
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::Steve Gamlin: A temptation. I mean right after right. After losing Tina, a couple of people reached out because they knew my my journey through this, and they said, Hey, brother, I know it's been, you know, a long time since you've had a drink. Are you okay? Right now? Are you craving one? Are you going to, you know, drink and fall back in any old patterns? And oh, my gosh! I love them for even reaching out and asking.
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::Steve Gamlin: But it was never even a thought.
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::Steve Gamlin: because that's just not who I am.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: The whole becoming.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, I become a person who chooses not to consume alcohol anymore.
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::Steve Gamlin: That's all.
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::Steve Gamlin: I'm not a quitter.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I'm not a quitter either. I'm just a person who made it a choice, and I don't miss it. There's no place in my life for it anymore. My life is so full that I don't know when I don't know when it would fit in. I don't know when it would be appropriate. It's like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: No, I've got these other options that are much more appealing to me. Quite frankly.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, I mean, there's a there's a double drink holder on our peloton cycle, and I love the peloton. I've pedaled over 9,300 miles in in less than in just over 3 years, but there'll never be a rum bottle on that, because I don't want to fall off the peloton
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::Steve Gamlin: right? Because I think
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::Steve Gamlin: the instructors, if they could see me on the camera on the screen, which I don't think they can, would be laughing so hard that their entire class would fall off their their cycles as well. So I just I pedal on there for joy and for exhaustion, and for fat, burning, and just to feel alive every day, and to and to get some good, heavy, deep breaths going, because that makes me feel more alive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. Breath.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Everybody breathes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Everybody takes in air, but not everybody breathes. There's so much you can do with your breath.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You can relax your body, you can energize your body, you can change your whole chemical composition in your body.
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::Steve Gamlin: -
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just to do you. Just it starts with a vision.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You have vision all over, but.
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::Steve Gamlin: I do?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So let's talk about how your coaching works.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Is it just like a class? Is it group coaching? Is it personal coaching?
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::Steve Gamlin: I do have group coaching. And we're relaunching. Actually, the group coaching community. We do it for a limited amount of time. And then people can opt to continue. And for a very limited number of people I do one on one. But I've just found so many people thrive
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::Steve Gamlin: in a community setting because they may. They may have a goal, a hope, a dream, a desired outcome. But they're kind of afraid to raise their hand. But if they see somebody else say theirs.
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::Steve Gamlin: All of a sudden. You see, their hands start to go up and they're going, hey? You know. Well, Dave said that, or Cindy said that, and I kind of had one similar to that. But here's my take on it. And then all of a sudden, it's like a volleyball game breaks out, you know. One person hits it over the net and over and over and over, and you get this great volley going, and at the end of the session. We spike it, and here's the cool part everybody wins.
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::Steve Gamlin: So it's it's amazing to watch the dynamics of group coaching. And and as a I say, coach.
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::Steve Gamlin: but so many people throw daggers at the coaching industry because they think we're all a bunch of frauds.
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::Steve Gamlin: I generally say I'm a visualization strategist, meaning, if you've got your point A, and you kind of have a vague idea of your point. BI help you to dial that in and then help you to recognize the steps and opportunities to get there. So it's it's a big strategy. Not just a rah, rah! Rah! Go get it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, and and it it's really, I think, part of the reason the coaching industry gets
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: such a bad rap is that people think that coaches are going to do it for them.
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::Steve Gamlin: When a coach's job is to help you get better at something that you're already good at.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's the other piece. But you have to do the work. You have to take action to make it happen, and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and my experience as a coach is that people will generally start out
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: thinking they're following your directions. But then they like veer off.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and they're off in the 2 leaves, and then they're like. But you said, and it's like, No, no, honey, that's not what I said, but you know, if it's working for you, embrace it if it's not working for you, maybe you need to circle back to where you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: took the took the left turn and and see if if maybe you can get further down the path before you take.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah. Oh, my favorite coaches I've ever had, and I've had coaches for more than 20 years, if not longer.
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::Steve Gamlin: have just listened to where my life is at right at that moment, and they they've asked me a question
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::Steve Gamlin: August of Oh, 3, I
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::Steve Gamlin: it was the very low point of my life, and I had $3 left in my pocket on a Friday afternoon, and I went and beat the ever loving crap out of a bucket of golf balls at a local driving range, and I'm a horrible golfer. So I went to the farthest tee box on the property up against the fence, so I wouldn't dent anybody's car.
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::Steve Gamlin: and a thunderstorm broke out. So I stood there for an hour in the pouring rain, thunder, lightning, barefoot in the wet grass, hitting golf balls, and at 1 point even held the club up and said, Go ahead, I dare you!
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::Steve Gamlin: And I hit my bucket in the buckets of 2 other guys who had run from the storm and never came back.
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::Steve Gamlin: I couldn't even lift my arms anymore. And when I got to my car the rain stopped and the sun came out, and I thought that was so funny.
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::Steve Gamlin: Next day I'm on a call with my coach. How was your week? I go listen to what this idiot did yesterday.
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::Steve Gamlin: because my self-talk at the time was really atrocious.
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::Steve Gamlin: He was laughing so hard, which you should never do when your client's life really sucks. But.
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::Steve Gamlin: he said, I got a question for you. Have you ever thought of being a motivational speaker or a stand-up comedian? I think you'd be really good at both.
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::Steve Gamlin: He never knew my goals from when I was 11 I'd never told him.
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::Steve Gamlin: I was in my 1st intro to stand-up comedy class, and a week after that I attended attended my 1st host masters meeting.
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::Steve Gamlin: So it's just him listening to where I was, and he offered up a question and a suggestion, and
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::Steve Gamlin: all he did was just turn my head a little bit and say, well, there's a comedy class over there. By the way, over here there's this thing called toastmasters.
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::Steve Gamlin: and it was just to to have that clarity.
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::Steve Gamlin: and also somebody who believed in me enough to to take the 1st step. When I didn't believe in myself at all, I was still wrecking myself for destroying my life.
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::Steve Gamlin: That was the catalyst for the past 22 years almost.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it just yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So the next time you're standing around and you're hearing somebody bashing coaches, just keep in mind. Their job is not to fix your life. Their job is just to help you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: questions to help you decide what you're going to do. They're not doing it for you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They're not the athlete, they're the coach.
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::Steve Gamlin: I'll run alongside you, but I'm not running the Marathon for you.
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::Steve Gamlin: At all, because what I mean really, what would that serve.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Steve Gamlin: That's that's that's kind of like a participation trophy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Where everybody wins, even though we didn't do all the work that's.
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::Steve Gamlin: That is not why I got into doing what I do as as a speaker, or in coaching or writing, or anything.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So when when you're
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: helping people with vision boards, and that's primarily what you're what you're coaching is about helping them create a vision for their lives, and then stepping into that life is that.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, creating that vision. But then.
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::Steve Gamlin: what winds up? Taking a lot more time is working with them after to keep their fire lit
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::Steve Gamlin: and to keep them focused, and understanding that it's going to take time. I've got a meme that I created. It's a skeleton sitting at a desk with its head resting on its hand, bones.
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::Steve Gamlin: And I created that years ago for one of my clients who said I made a vision board, and nothing happened
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::Steve Gamlin: like, Give me 5 min. And I created that meme and sent it to them. I go. Don't you ever say that to me again. So a lot of what I do is
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::Steve Gamlin: helping them craft their board is one step. What happens beyond actually winds up being the majority of my time for the right people who get it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Do you work on recognizing things like I? I know over the years I've created vision boards and
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the the thing that I've noticed, and I try to be much better at it now, because, you know, shorter time left on the planet. But in the beginning I would create vision boards, and I could hardly wait for them to happen, and then I'd put it away, and years would go by, and then I would go back, and I'd come across it, and it'd be like, Oh, yeah, that happened. That happened. And that happened. And that house I bought just like this one.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just being aware of things that are coming your way. You know you want a pile of money being grateful for the pennies that you find on the ground, and and being open to opportunities like I in 2023, I joined a group. It was the 1 million dollar experiment with Joanna Hunter.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I manifested $50,000 between the new moon in November and the new moon in December. I knew how it was all going to play out. I had it in my mind, and it didn't play out anything like I had planned.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what happened was, my father-in-law got sick in that period, and he left us $50,000. He died on the new moon in December.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It it was.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It was so weird, just the whole experience. But I knew that all all through 2024, I was like, I'm
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm going to be a millionaire. I am a millionaire, and it was just I was feeling it, and I was open to opportunities. In January of 2025, I was introduced to something that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I will be a millionaire in one year in September. It's just it's a done deal. The math's already there. I'm just waiting for it to arrive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay, but it's it's the. It's the vision. It's the being open. It's the recognizing that nothing happens like
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So yeah, I just thought I'd share that with you.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, no. And you're absolutely right. And sometimes and I say this this way, you know, the universe has a sense of humor. It may not happen the way you wanted it to happen. I'm actually living a lot of that right now. With the current situation in my life I had set a weight goal for the end of 2024,
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::Steve Gamlin: Tina passed away. I was stuck in England for almost 2 and a half weeks.
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::Steve Gamlin: I lost 14 pounds while I was in England. Now I refer to that now as the London Grief Diet, and I don't recommend it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Right.
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::Steve Gamlin: I hit the goal I had set, and I looked at every single day, so we don't always understand. We've got to be very careful about how we go about achieving these things.
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::Steve Gamlin: the better. And now, I've added, I want this to happen in a positive way, in a good way, in a healthful way, in a happy way. You know I'm attaching more emotions to the outcome, because I've seen what can happen now. I hit my a couple of goals
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::Steve Gamlin: but I hit the goal, and I'm much healthier now than I was physically prior to that.
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::Steve Gamlin: So the universe will conspire. And Dr. Joe Dispenza calls it. And you mentioned opportunity. It's the reticulator. Reticular activating system is the scientific thing behind it. But we just are. We get much more aware of opportunities. And, like you said you were away from your vision board for a while, and all of a sudden you went back and looked at it, going. My gosh, this! This this happened because you were aware, and you plugged it in
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::Steve Gamlin: so that your senses were popping off when you saw an opportunity, and maybe you took an extra action that day you wouldn't have taken otherwise, and it led you to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I I it just being grateful
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, I've been putting pen to paper daily.
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::Steve Gamlin: Well, 96 plus percent of days over the past 14 years.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay.
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::Steve Gamlin: Of things I'm grateful for, and not just a broad brush thing like I'm thankful for my house, my job, you know my family
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::Steve Gamlin: Even even the day that I lost Tina I was. I had something I was grateful for.
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::Steve Gamlin: And I wrote that down, and people said, Oh, my God, Steve, how could you possibly find something to be grateful for? I did, and I was.
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::Steve Gamlin: and I'm still grateful every day when she shows me signs that she is here in our home or around it. She sent a cardinal to me. The morning after Christmas.
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::Steve Gamlin: 2 days after I arrived home, there was a cardinal in the background, which is a sign of a visitor. In February, near my birthday was the second Cardinal, and in early April, on her birthday was the 3.rd
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're talking to the person who has birds, visitor, and leave her messages like the day I embraced sobriety. I had a hawk come and mess with my hair. I had it up on my head, and it was I was turning water off, so I was bent over, turning the spigot off.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and it was underneath this overhang that we have going into the back door, and the hawk came under the overhang and was messing with my hair. It didn't hit my scalp. I thought it was wasps, so I reached up, and I go like that to to brush the wasps away, and my husband, who would watch the whole thing. He's pointing at the fence line. It flew over and sat on the fence. It didn't like fly away. It sat on the fence, and it looked at me. It gave me a message that you know
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you got. This was just basically the message of the hawk, and for like a couple minutes it sat there and just stared at me. We we had eye contact, and it was like I was trying to communicate with it, and and then eventually it did fly off, and it was just like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I don't have any other explanations other than this was a message.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: From the universe that this is. This is the direction you're supposed to go in. Don't look back. It's not going to be hard, and it has never been hard. I'm around alcohol all the time, and there's just not any desire for it.
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::Steve Gamlin: yeah, I love stuff like that. And sometimes people will reach out to me and go, hey, Steve, is this like that universe thing you talk about, and they'll tell me the situation I'm like, Oh, my gosh, that is perfect! And then I get to share their stories. I mean, I've got one young lady I was working with for a while with her company. I've actually done 17 years in a row, working with this same company.
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::Steve Gamlin: and every year they invite me back in in January to help their team with their goals. And of course I've learned new things throughout the year, so I share new bits and pieces every year.
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::Steve Gamlin: And they moved somewhere, and she was out walking one day, and she said, Mom, I need you to show me a sign. And she walked down this one street, and there were a whole bunch of robins all over the lawn of this property, and she didn't see Robins all that often. Her mom's name is Robin was Robin.
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::Steve Gamlin: all of these other things. Once that happened, all these other things happened to stack up around her, she went in for a medical procedure
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::Steve Gamlin: and so she then got to share with her that that was her mom's favorite bird and her name and all of
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::Steve Gamlin: she. She must have reached out to me 3 or 4 times over the next couple of weeks sharing all these things that kept showing up because she was so tuned in
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::Steve Gamlin: and aware. And it was a beautiful thing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's really, I think the key is being tuned in and aware of
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: of the universe. It's always talking to us. Yeah, always.
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::Steve Gamlin: Blow your mind some days when you look around it really will, you can almost make it happen.
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::Steve Gamlin: I mean, I just say
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::Steve Gamlin: one of the things we did for Tina's birthday is, I went and got 5 $20 gift cards for the local grocery store.
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::Steve Gamlin: and each time I go I have one in my pocket, and the days that I remember to say, All right, Babe, find me somebody to give this to
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::Steve Gamlin: every time I've said that I have found someone
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::Steve Gamlin: some days. I don't even have to make it into the store. I saw a little girl she must, 4 or 5 years old, was standing in the grocery cart helping her dad load the groceries in the car. She's got this gallon jug of milk, and her little tiny arms are shaking and shaking and shaking. She's going, Daddy, and he turns around and grabs it, and he says, Thank you, honey, and I'm walking. I mean, I literally got maybe 20 feet from my car, looked over my left shoulder, saw this happening, went over
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::Steve Gamlin: and said, Sir, 1st off, would you like me to return that carriage for you? So you don't have to leave your child alone in the car? Oh, that'd be very helpful, I said. I'll tell you what. I just saw her helping you with the groceries, and I looked at his daughter and said that was really strong to lift that gallon of milk like that.
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::Steve Gamlin: and I gave that
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::Steve Gamlin: gift card to her. Dad, I said, Look, my name is Steve, my family, and I have a nonprofit called Beach bum philanthropy. Anytime we see an act of kindness we like to recognize it in.
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::Steve Gamlin: Send an act of kindness your way, so I'd like to, if you'll accept it.
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::Steve Gamlin: Give you this $20 gift card for the next time you come to the store, and the little girl looks at it, and she goes. What's that, daddy? And he says, Honey, that's ice cream next time we go shopping, and I.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's good.
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::Steve Gamlin: I said, What's your favorite flavor? And she goes pink.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I just.
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::Steve Gamlin: And and I turned around. Walk away. Wish them a great day, and I looked up, and I go.
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::Steve Gamlin: Good pick, Babe. Thank you, baby. That's what I always say. Thank you, baby.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that story.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay, I get all emotional about these things.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yeah, I do, too. So no worries.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay, so you offer people.
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::Steve Gamlin: The 5 biggest ways people screw up their vision boards and how they can avoid them. Tell tell the audience about that, and how they can get it.
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::Steve Gamlin: I've done them all. So that's where
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::Steve Gamlin: that was the source of my creation, because my 1st 2 vision boards years ago were all material things. And it took me all of 2 weeks to go.
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::Steve Gamlin: So yeah, I started to compile the 5 biggest ways. People screw up their vision boards and it is available. It's a free Pdf, and you can find it at 5 day vision.com. It's the number 5 5 day vision.com, and they'll just be dropped right into your email inbox. And you can laugh along every time you recognize yourself
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::Steve Gamlin: in one of these ways and just know I've done 5 of 5, so please don't feel bad if you say, Oh, my God, I've done 4 of these.
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::Steve Gamlin: I am the king of making mistakes with vision boards, which is why I am now
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::Steve Gamlin: successful at teaching them.
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::Steve Gamlin: because I never invested in anyone else's programs. I started my own way with little bits and pieces from here and there, and I made every mistake you can imagine. So now I get to celebrate and share those mistakes with other people
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::Steve Gamlin: without shame to say, Look, if this will help you to keep you from making these mistakes.
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::Steve Gamlin: Rock on, let's walk together for even just this little bit, this little free thing fivedayvision.com.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Perfect, and if they want to work with you
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: they should go to stevegamlinspeaker.com.
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::Steve Gamlin: Yes, that is the website that's got everything I do. And we're actually in the process of overhauling and creating a whole new
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::Steve Gamlin: digital footprint. We've got everything being overhauled, including my vision Board mastery program that's getting completely re-recorded
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::Steve Gamlin: with some updated tips and tactics that I've discovered over the past several years.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Wonderful.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thank you so much for joining us today, Steve. This has been an amazing conversation.
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::Steve Gamlin: My pleasure. Thank you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To learn more about Steve, and to get the 5 biggest ways people screw up their vision boards and how you can avoid them. Please visit fivedayvision.com, and if you'd like to get in touch with Steve, you can reach him through stevegamlinspeaker.com, and we'll be sure and put those links in the show notes below. Thank you for tuning in with us today. If you have a podcast or are interested in starting one to get your message in front of our huge and active audience, be sure to reach out to us at Jill and ostictv.com.
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